Action against sexism by A Student in Paris:
I was 19 or 20. On three occasions men spat on my face after I confronted their aggressive behaviour (towards me or others).
One was a young pickpocket, one a sexual predator and the last one an angry guy believing he was entitled to extra space in a compact crowd. Spitting on my face aimed at punishing me (and intimidating witnesses) because I quietly stood through their menacing speeches and glare.
They failed to silence me. I may have been scared but I hid my fear, because their violence revealed their narcissistic weaknesses. Violence is always an admission of failure.
I’m mentally stronger than violent men. And I’m getting stronger and stronger every day.
Action Against Sexism by Sarah:
I was walking to the bus stop on my way to work after a doctors appointment and two men were moving furniture from a van parked on the road, to a house very close by. As I got closer they were stood in the front yard staring at me. They started making kissing noises and shouting hey sexy, the usual cr*p. I have never been able to ignore or tolerate this type of behaviour so I told them where to go. This really pissed them off, first off they started saying ‘what the fcuk is your problem’ then moved on to calling me a miserable bitch. I asked them if they thought it was intimidating to shout sexual things at a woman in the street and they just couldn’t understand what I was on about. I wish I had kept my cool but i was so angry I did become very verbally aggressive which I regret. Things escalated and they one guy actually wanted to hit me but the other held him back. As stupid as some people may think it to risk your safety on idiots like this, I will stand up for myself or others every time. I don’t think my actions will have changed these 2 mens attitude to women just maybe they will think before shouting something next time. If they always got that reaction then it wouldn’t be much fun for them!
Action Against Sexism by Stranger in Delhi:
I live in Delhi and always hire taxis from the same taxi stand in my locality. This morning the driver was new and greeted me warmly. He soon turned out to be a bloody molester. While pretending to entertain me with a friendly chat and an English speaking radio program, he proceeded to grope my arm, my lap and my breast.
He was also rude to his wife over the phone, probably assuming I don’t understand Hindi. There was an uncomfortable contrast between the casual conversation he was trying to maintain with me in English and the latent violence of his speech to his wife in Hindi.
When I became sure that his groping attempts were intentional, I firmly demanded that he should stop. He first pretended not to understand what I meant, expecting that I would be too embarrassed to develop. He got a straightforward answer in Hinglish: Don’t harass me sexually. I’m a woman, I want respect.
Ironically, the radio was airing a program about women’s safety in the city, with live testimonies. I told him to put louder and to listen.
He apologized, called me his “sister” and stopped misbehaving.
Later he asked for a tip. Did he think his penance deserved a reward? It didn’t: respecting me a as a human being is normal, and is not a favour for which I should express gratitude. So I refused.
This manipulative attitude reveals that this guy must be used to assaulting / objectifying / abusing women, as long as he doesn’t meet resistance. So I also reported the matter to his boss and advised him not to send him with female clients anymore.