The Unthinkable

Action Against Sexism by Auntie:

I was discussing with my 17-year old nephew his plans for the future, namely his wishes to study management and to work abroad. He also mentioned his desire to marry a woman from his community. I asked him what he would do if his wife didn’t share his dream to live abroad. He jokingly replied: “well, she will be under my control, so…”.

Then I asked him what he would do if he was offered a nice work opportunity in Singapore, while his wife was offered a nicer opportunity, with a better salary, in Washington: who would be “in control” then, and who would adjust to the other one?

He admitted he didn’t have an answer. I guess he still has few years more to think about it!


I’m not a “Supplement” to a Man

Action Against Sexism by Ann Webster:

I run my own business: a previous client told me how nice it was that I had a ‘little job’ to supplement husband’s income. I was the sole earner at the time and had been for over 18 months, so I told him that. He looked confused (his partner stays at home, unable to drive and completely dependent on him) but I think he got the message.